Over It

I'm over it. I'm over people tearing other people down. I'm over women putting each other under the bus because we're jealous of another woman's success. I'm over the constant nagging, judging and belittling. I'm flat out over it. 

Here are my thoughts on the matter. Take them however you want. Maybe someone will agree with me and if you don't, that's okay! That's what this entire post is about.

We are a society SO consumed with ourselves that when something good happens to someone else, the first thing we do about it is critique. Someone from around here could become a published author and someone would have to make a comment about how awful their writing style is. 

Someone will always have something negative to say. And here's the thing: it's way easier to critique than encourage. But be bold. Say something to someone that will make his or her day! Don't you love it when someone compliments you when you've been having what feels like the worst day? Be that encouraging word for someone else. You never know whose day you'll make better by being kind.

Instead of tearing others down, why not build them up? And if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all! Isn't this literally the first thing we learned in kindergarten? I'm not trying to be annoying or over the top. I'm just OVER people tearing others down, whether it be to their face or behind their back. Both are equally as bad. Is it that hard to be happy for someone? 

Someone posted their new dress for homecoming on Instagram? Cool. Instead of texting your best friend how hideous it is, really have an open mind and try to find it in you to be encouraging. That being said, DON'T BE FAKE! If you truly don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all.

Someone got engaged? GREAT! Good for them! Instead of saying, "Everyone's getting engaged and I'm just over here eating my pizza...", how about you congratulate them? Is it that hard?

It's not rocket science. But somehow, somewhere along the way, it became cool to be mean and extremely critical. And I'm just flat out over it. 

I'm going to take a dose of my own advice here. I'm not saying I never have a bad thing to say about anyone. But I'm serious, the world would be a much happier place if we built each other up instead of constantly tearing each other down.